A birthday

Alex turned 13 last Friday, the 26th. Part of me is regretful that Alex-the-child will soon be a thing of the past. Another part of me is excited over our evolving relationship now that she is no longer a baby… It is fun to have a friendly mother-daughter relationship. Not the ruler-subject kind but the kind that allows us to treat each other as friends and confidantes. I’ve already started to taste it and I know I’ll savor more if I can maintain the openness that I have trying to nurture all these years.

Still, you know, sometimes I miss Alex-the-baby. When both girls went on a three-day trip to Bataan recently… the night they left, she was sitting on my bed playing her PSP. I laid down beside her and asked for an embrace. She said, without looking up from her game, “Mommy, it’s just three days, I’m not gonna die.” In those exact words.

I replied, “But I’m going to miss you.”

“Mommy, you shouldn’t emote like that,” she told me. My goodness, I didn’t know whether to laugh or feel embarassed. Duh, I don’t say that to her or her sister when it’s them who snuggle close for an embrace. Anyway, I did get my embrace from both girls before they left.

Alex has reached that age when she has her own ideas about how to celebrate her birthday. On the eve of her birthday, we had a quiet family dinner at Vieux Chalet, in accordance with her wish. As always, the view was breathtaking.

casaveneracion.com a view of metro manila from Vieux Chalet

casaveneracion.com a view of Eastwood City from Vieux Chalet

On her birthday, she brought two large containers of home-baked brownies to school to share with her classmates and teachers.

casaveneracion.com brownies with M&M toppings

Later that day, she and some close friends from school went to see a movie (chaperoned by a classmate’s mom) and she treated them to burgers and fries. Then, on Saturday evening, we had some friends and their kids over for dinner.

Truly special occasions do not require lavish celebrations. :)

Comments

  1. Jazzy says

    We can just imagine the same feeling our parents feel when we were growing up. It is really inevitable.

    Thanks for sharing this.

  2. says

    Jazzy, I think it's true that no one can really know what motherhood is about until one becomes a mother. :)

    Thanks, Pinayhekmi. :) I hope you and baby are doing great. :)

  3. says

    Wow, now you got a teenager at home! Happy birthday to your Alex:grin:

    From a mother's point of view, the stage of adolescence, moreso 13, is kinda tough because they tend to get very, very hormonal, which is like a baby sister version of our worst PMSes, so goodluck! :razz:

  4. says

    Happy birthday, Alex!

    This article touches my heart. I remember my daughter when she turned 13 too. She wanted to have a kiddie party, for the last time daw. But on second thought, she just decided to treat her friends and classmates. Haay! Wala na rin akong baby dito, now what I fear is when she goes to college. Connie, do you think I can impose on my "no boyfriend till you graduate" policy? Please, I need your opinion.

  5. says

    Thanks, Poppycock, will relay the greetings. Actually, 2 teenagers na. Alex is the bunso. Her Ate Sam is 14. :) So… medyo I've experienced the puberty blues already. But then again each child is different.

    How time flies.

    And thanks, too, Rhodora. Makakarating. Re boyfriend. Honest opinion: baka itago lang.

  6. says

    Happy Birthday to your dalaginding. The joys of growing up …i cant even imagine when my daughter reaches that age. If only we can freeze time.

  7. says

    Belated happy birthday to Alex! I love her way of celebrating it! Wow, the teen-years are going to be a whirlwind! I do share your sentiments –times flies and they grow so quickly right before our eyes! My own baby is going to be a year old next month and I'm already sad! He's growing up!

    P.S. Thank you very much for adding me as a link!

  8. says

    Thanks, Sam. I'll text you. Couldn't last week because of the birthday. Weird schedule.

    Poppycock, LOL. We ought to have a centralized mommy aggregator hehehe

    • says

      Time goes so fast when it comes to kids growing up. It's great that you are home with them while they are teenagers. 13th birthday is much awaited for some kids because they get in the teen club.

      The brownies look so tempting!

  9. says

    Daughters are great companions. Now that they are "adults" , it's even better. Some acquaintances like gym buddies think we're good old buddies. I hope to visit Vieux Chalet once we move to Pasig. Can you believe the last time I was there I was 8 months pregnant with L?

  10. says

    right rhodora, mom power. about time too. :grin:

    KK, the classmates seemed to think so too. My daughter did not even bring home the containers. :lol:

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