Lesson learned from observing the pet

If I could always have things my way, I’d be updating each of my blogs everyday. I like writing things as they happen; I like writing down my thoughts almost as soon as they cross my mind. But it’s been a busy week. Family first. Two family dinner get-togethers in three days. And yesterday was Sam’s birthday. So, not much writing at night. What about the days, you may ask. Do I need all day to get dolled up for a family dinner party? No, actually. I need 20 minutes to bathe and five minutes to get dressed. I don’t put on make-up and I don’t blow-dry my hair. So, what happened during the past couple of days? Well, Tuesday, I was out on a photo shoot. And the rest of the days?

casaveneracion.com Cat on my computer chair

Backache.

That’s Maki, Alex’s blue-eyed kitten, sprawled on my computer chair. I like tilting back my chair when I pause from writing. I lean back, look out the window and relax, drawing inspiration from the peace and quiet and the wonderful view outside. But with Maki on my chair, leaning back is a bit awkward. Not that I haven’t tried removing him. I have, many times. But he would dig his claws into the upholstery and hang on. The times I managed to move him to the floor, I’d find him back on the chair after a few minutes.

He’s just a kitten. An animal. Does he really deserve so much consideration? But Maki is Alex’s pet and very much a part of the household. He has an attitude but I’m almost sure that it has something to do with him feeling like an outsider. Meaning? Okay, we have three other cats — Pepper and her kittens. Maki is not related to them. But he craves Pepper’s attention as though he wants her to treat him as one of hers too. In fact, it seems that he seeks to monopolize Pepper’s attention. Pepper breastfeeds him. And when he’s feeding, he displaces the kittens. He likes to sleep beside Pepper even if it means Pepper has to sleep away from her own kittens.

It’s amazing how animals exhibit a lot of human attitudes. It isn’t uncommon for a child orphaned early in life to form a strong bond with a stranger — a man or a woman — whom he looks at as a father or mother figure. Maki isn’t an orphan but he was separated from his parents when he was two months old. So, I don’t find it very surprising that he has attached himself to Pepper.

I suppose he likes to get everyone’s attention. He knows I don’t allow the other cats on my computer chair — not even Pepper. So he has to be the one that’s allowed. But Maki being the “outsider”, I give concessions. I’ve stopped forcing him off my chair. Instead, I put him on my lap, stroke his fur for a few minutes, then I put him down gently on the floor. See, having a pet isn’t just about feeding and trips to the vet. It’s also about understanding them so that they can learn to get along with everyone in the household.